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Friday 16 November 2012

$$$ Vs Happiness....

I am the type of person who doesn't really care how people think about me.  I just do things which I think is right, bring no harm to others and most importanltly, I find satisfaction on what I have done and feel happy with it.
It seems natural that money is very important than any other things in life.  The more money in hands means we feel happier.  We can have what we want and do what we want.  In actual fact, i don't feel it that way. 
To me, having a job which is of your interest and can earn relative income to give you the basic needs of life, having some extra for your leisure, use some as investment and keep some as savings....that's good enough. 
I always tell my children, though I don't earn like business people do, I don't have to worry about the risk of making a lost or stress on not getting good returns for what I'd put in.
I have my own house, a car to drive, eat out if I feel lazy to cook, and most of all, I can spare a little time for GOD.
I don't buy a big house and I am having a house just enough for a small family.  The thing is I am going to fill my home with love, care, peace, understanding and forgiveness.  I don't drive my dream car.  I am driving a car whcih I can afford to buy, after all the main purpose is to bring me to the place where I want to go. 
I bring my family for breakfast in different places every Sunday after mass. 
Our life is no worse than those getting more pay than me.
My monthly income is considered "average" at this age but appear "good enough" or even "better" in the eyes of other people.  I dare to say I can manage my family well even with that "average"earnings.  Besides handling everything in the family on my own, I also contribute to my mum's home stay expenses and she has been bed-ridden for more than 10 years with an average montly expenses of RM3k all in.
I feel proud of myself as till now I have never failed my responsibility as a mother to my children and a daughter to my mother.
My sisters are far better off than me but they always have lots of complaints.  I don't see the luxurious possessions make them happier.  They seem to have everything, but I have a feeling that something is missing. 
My children give thanks to the little things that they acquired, or sometimes going to a place where they have never been there before, you can see the excitement in their eyes.  I feel happy because my children know about appreciation and thanksgiving. 
When my sis see this, they will ask me:  your children are funny ha?  Why are they getting satisfaction so easily?  Err.....speechless
Every parent is the same.  They all hope to see that their children will be successful in life.  I also pray that I can provide the highest education to my children so that they can be successful one day, in their career life and marriage life. 
When both my children told me that they don't like doing science, I feel a little disappointed but then it doesn't mean that not doing science they can't be successful.  It just narrow down their choices. 
A lot of people asking me why I didn't force jane to take Accounting?  better future, earn more money wor..
I don't want her to do something that she doesn't like for the rest of her life just for the sake of me.  I am getting old each day and will be called back home sooner or later.  Young generations still have a long way to go.  I use to tell them:   for whatever you do, be honest to yourself.  Study hard and at least get a degree to earn you a living.  At the same time serve God and you will get unexpected returns.  You may not see it now but you will realize it one day.  I don't mean to say serve God because you are expecting some returns from Him.  Trust Him and serve Him and you will find your life is very much beautiful and peaceful.  Most poeple think that acquiring money and status makes us feel satisfied with life but unfortunately it doesn't.  Most of the sulking, miserable people that we meet in everyday life are rich people.  The misery that these people go through is not because they don't have enough money but due to the fact that everyone seems to have more expectations from money.  Of course money is important to help us live our life to the fullest.  but at the same time, an increase in its inflow does not bring proportional happiness with it.  Are we aware of this?
Let's see things from another perspective, if we can get a chance to become rich and wealthy, why not?
With money we can help more poor people who really face hardship in life.  We can help churches in momentary form other than giving our time and services.  But bear in mind that when we are rich, lets control our money and don't let the money control us and make us lost.
What i say here may not be correct or applicable to all.  I am only giving some true facts that happen around me.  In life, we can't expect smooth road all the way, there are bumps that we have to overcome in order to get through. 
Take up challenges in life.  Whatever happens, we are the one who choose how to react to the situation.

I asked God, "How do I get the best out of life?"
God said,
"Face your past without regrets.
Handle your present with confidence, and prepare for the future without fear!"

Friday 11 May 2012

Jee, Happy Mother's Day~~!!!!!!

Jee!!!! This is for you with love~~~~ ^^ 


You are the best for me, Liang, Pa, all your relatives, friends, and all those who love and treasure you...
Thanks God He made you and gives you to us.... :')


Only with you that we have a happy, warmth and nice home, you bring us all one, as a family.... 


I just want to use this blog to wish you a very very Happy Mother's Day.... 
Expensive gifts are in-affordable, this is the one and only cheapest way i can think of to show my appreciation to you.... ^^

 

Jee, you are very important to us, you are the trunk of the family.... 
I wish you a happy, healthy, safe and fruitful day... 
May God loves and protects you always no matter where you are and what you are doing... 



I want to let the whole world know this~~~~ 


 you very very much~~~



Jee~~~~ I am proud to be your daughter! :') 
You are the best! 





Wednesday 22 February 2012

累了。。。

当梦不想再做,故事不想再说。。。
我只希望回归原点。

Thursday 16 February 2012

The Boss from HELL

Everyone in the workplace calls him mad dog. He is the boss from Hell.

He treated us like dirt. He has no shame and make no effort to hide his bullying behaviors.
He is slowly killing us!!!

Do you know what does a bully and sperm have in common?
They both have a one-in-a-million chance of becoming a human being.

In another word, he's not a human being. The nickname "Mad dog" fits him perfectly.

Tuesday 27 December 2011

Family Photo~~~

Nice or not? Surprise!!! =) Happy New Year 2012~~~
We are happy family~~~ xD


Tuesday 20 September 2011

SSPCA

My colleague Ling asked me to accompany her to a place - SSPCA.
I was asking: What is the meaning of SSPCA and what does it stand for?
She answered: You just follow and you'll find it out yourself.
This is my first time going and the moment we reached that place, there is a big signboard -
The Sarawak Society for the Prevention of cruelty to animals.
Oh, so we are coming here.
Few months ago, a pregnant stray cat went into her house and gave birth to 3 kittens. Now she's troubled with these cats pooping in her neighbour's garden, pissing everywhere, spoilt their plants.....so on. Her neighbour has been complaining and mentally harassing her to abandon the cats.
There are hundreds of cats and dogs there waiting for adoption. They would be put to sleep if nobody adopt them. Sometimes we human are really cold and heartless.
After a short visit there, there is no words to express my feelings.
Myself and both my children had a painful parting experience when we kept hamster as pet. Then on, there is a rule in our house : NO pet is allowed.

posted by : ellepo

Wednesday 31 August 2011

Try hard to be in your shoe

最近我和大姐的沟通出现了一些问题。
一直以来,我都是在扮演“听”的角色。我尝试以你的观点去了解你的心情和处境,用耐心和爱心去明白,关怀你。而且也尽量配合在精神上给于鼓励。但是我不能避免偶尔在想法和理念方面会和你有所不同。当我给以一些不一样的意见时,你的情绪就会突然的转变,一下子失控。好好的一场姐妹谈论,往往就变成了辩论,然后你就会把我过去无心的错误,一下子全搬出来指证我,最后闹得不欢而散,把彼此之间的关系搞得很僵。
我每天都有很多的事情要处理,还要拨出时间去聆听你蔢媳之间的问题。我每次都有配合,很用心去听,甚至试着去穿你的鞋子(虽然我不可能穿的下)。
对不起,也许我是太理性了。如果你再找我谈,我会试用感情进入你的内心世界里。
我真的很在乎我们的姐妹情。
也许会搁上好一段时间吧!
Posted by: ellepo

Friday 26 August 2011

i m sick...

I am sick, of being me....

 
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